ADHD Coach · Victoria BC
ADHD coaching that starts with understanding you.
I work with adults with ADHD to understand what’s helping, what’s getting in the way, and what might make it easier to do the things that matter to them.
Coaching can give you somewhere to think, notice patterns, make decisions, create practical supports and try different ways forward — with someone alongside you.
ADHD coaching for adults, in Victoria, BC
·In person or online
How I work
Coaching starts with curiosity.
Not with a list of what’s wrong. Most of what we do together starts from a question.
What are you trying to make possible?
What's making this harder than it needs to be?
When things do work, what's different?
What would make this easier?
You are the expert on your own life. I bring coaching skills, questions, perspective, what I know about ADHD and executive function, and a habit of noticing patterns. We work it out together.
What coaching can look like
Get curious. Explore. Try something. See what happens.
Not a fixed sequence — a conversation usually moves back and forth between these.
We get curious
We slow things down enough to understand what's happening. What matters to you? What's getting in the way? What patterns keep showing up? What already seems to help?
We explore
We look at possibilities together. That might mean making a decision, mapping out a project, creating some structure, looking at an environment, finding support, or seeing a familiar problem differently.
You decide what to try
Coaching should increase your agency, not take it away. You decide what feels useful and what you'd like to experiment with between sessions.
We learn from what happens
The next conversation isn't about whether you finished your homework. We look at what actually happened. What helped? What didn't? What did you notice? What would you like to change?
The point of it
Getting things done matters. But getting more things done isn’t the point.
Coaching can help you make decisions, start things, finish things, create structure and follow through.
It can also help you decide what isn’t important, what doesn’t belong on your plate, and what you’re actually trying to make room for.
The question isn’t only “How do I get myself to do this?”Sometimes it’s:
- Does this matter?
- What would make it easier?
- What am I actually trying to accomplish?
- Is there another way?
What we might work on
Some of what people bring.
Whatever is actually in front of you is a reasonable place to start.
- Starting or finishing a project
- Planning and prioritizing
- Making a career or business decision
- Creating realistic routines
- Executive-function supports
- Navigating a transition
- Following through on something important
- Understanding a pattern that keeps repeating
- Finding the right amount of structure
- Reducing what you're trying to hold in your head
- Designing work around how you function best
- Turning a big idea into something you can begin
- Figuring out what actually matters right now
About Caeli
I’m interested in what helps people do well.
Not in some ideal version of life — in the lives we’re actually living. I’ve spent a lot of my life wondering why some circumstances bring out the best in us, while others make it much harder to get at what we know we’re capable of.
That question has taken me through biology, business, organizational culture, and now ADHD coaching. It turns out it’s the same question either way: what’s actually going on here, and what would help?
Common questions
Wondering how this works?
A few of the questions that come up most often before a first conversation.
Read all the questions →Do I need a diagnosis to work with you?
No. Some clients are formally diagnosed, some are self-identified, some are in the middle of being assessed. We start from where you are.
How is coaching different from therapy?
Therapy often looks at why things are the way they are. Coaching looks at what's happening now and what you'd like to be different. Plenty of people do both.
What does a session actually look like?
A conversation. We take whatever is most alive for you — a stalled project, a decision you keep circling, a routine that isn't holding — and think it through together.
Resources
Things I’ve been writing about.
6 min read
How Do You Respond to Unwelcome ADHD Comments Without Losing Your Cool?
Practical scripts for responding to dismissive ADHD comments from family, coworkers, and strangers — without shame or over-explaining.
7 min read
Why ADHD brains are more vulnerable to addiction — and what the science says
50–70% of addiction risk is genetic. People with ADHD are 2–3x more likely to develop substance use problems. Here's what the neuroscience shows, and why it changes everything about how we understand risk.
5 min read
ADHD and nutritional deficiencies: what the research actually shows
Research finds people with ADHD are more likely to be deficient in protein, omega-3s, magnesium, iron, zinc, and key vitamins. Here's what that means and what to do about it.
Currently taking new clients
Want to talk it through?
A free 20-minute conversation. Bring your questions — we can both get a sense of whether working together makes sense.
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